That One Thing [Ep. 4]

If someone asked me what is the one thing I would caution or warn homeschool moms about, I would have to say the need to be on guard for Stinking Thinking”.

And one reason we have such negative thoughts and feelings is that our minds can be saturated with SELF-DOUBT.

But what can you do about it? 

And what does the bible have to say?

Tune in to this week’s episode to find out. 

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Welcome to Confidently Growing At Home, a podcast dedicated to empower and equip homeschool moms like you to feel more fulfilled, confident, and content to stay home by focusing on your spiritual personal growth.

I’m your host, Ty Benjamin, and I want to help you become the very best version of yourself at home.

The question is, are you ready?

Hey, hey, and welcome back to another episode of the Confidently Growing At Home podcast. This episode is entitled That One Thing.

So if someone asked me, “What is the one thing I would caution homeschool moms about?” I would have to say that they need to be on guard for Stinking Thinking.

You may be like, what is that?

You know, did she just make that up?

Well, no, I’ve heard that phrase somewhere before, but I’m using it to describe the type of thinking we can find ourselves using when it comes to being new to homeschool or trying to navigate our decision to home.

You know, the Bible talks about guarding our minds, our thoughts, with all diligence.

In Proverbs 4:23, the New King James Bible says, “keep your heart with all diligence for out of it spring the issues of life.”

And I like the way another version says it. It says to “be careful what you think because your thoughts run your life.”

So being mindful of what we’re thinking about and what we’re saying to ourselves is very important, but what’s an example of Stinking Thinking.

Well, for the sake of time, I’m just going to discuss one aspect of it today.

And that’s when your mind is saturated with self doubt.

You know, I read one time that self doubt is a defense mechanism.

It’s your brain’s way of protecting you from potential failure or embarrassment.

Self-doubt is like a safeguard for you so that you hesitate or tell yourself that you can’t really do something so that you will psych yourself out from really trying and giving a full effort, or you impose these limitations on yourself.

You second guess yourself and your decision to homeschool and you start asking yourself questions like:

  • Can I really do this?
  • Am I really helping my child or am I doing more harm?

You say things like:

  • This is too hard and too much.
  • It’s too complicated for me.
  • I was never good in school, so I can’t be anyone’s teacher or
  • I don’t have the patience to teach my own child.

And so you constantly tell yourself why you can’t do it and why it’s not working.

But the way to combat the self-doubt mindset, in my humble opinion, is to stop saying I can’t and start asking, how can I?

What I mean is to start asking:

  • How can I do this?
  • How can I make this work?
  • How can I best help my child with their interests and learning styles and their needs?
  • How can I simplify this process? Or as I like to say, K.I.S.S. It, Keep It Simple, SIS, simplify that thing, right?
  • How can I grow as a teacher or who else, or what else can teach this information for me?
  • How can I work on being more patient and understanding?
  • How can I communicate better with my family?

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I love the quote that says “everything looks like a failure in the middle.”

Meaning at the beginning, it may not look like you’re making progress.

And as you keep going, it may look like a hot mess!

But if you will endure just a little while longer, you keep persevering, keep going, you keep pushing yourself through it, you will see the masterpiece at the end.

You know, you can change your thinking and overcome yourself.

You can believe in your potential.

Remember that there are many ways to homeschool. There are many options out there, but the goal is to find the way that beats to your family’s drum.

You know, God has put in each and every one of us the potential to grow, expand and achieve great things.

The first step to doing that is believing that you can.

But, you know, I can’t talk about self-doubt and not mention how it’s directly related to fear, worry, and your faith, or rather the lack thereof.

You see, self doubt is a powerful tactic or tool used by Satan because he understands that with doubt and with fear, with worry, he can control you.

A fearful and doubtful is fertile soil for Stinking Thinking.

And Satan knows that you can not grow to your fullest potential and be productive with a fearful, anxious and doubting mind.

I once read that worrying causes you to have a divided mind because you are not able to be wholehearted about anything.

The Bible speaks about this too in James chapter one, verses five through eight.

In verse five of James chapter one, it says, “if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God who gives generously to all without reproach. And it will be given him, but let him ask in faith with no doubting for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind; for that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord. He is a double-minded man unstable in all his ways”.

Worry and doubt are very real expressions of a lack of faith.

Let me say that again. Worry and doubt are very real expressions of a lack of faith.

And so I am imploring and encouraging you to remember that we serve a mighty and awesome God who in Matthew chapter six tells us not to worry about tomorrow and not to worry about our life.

We serve a God whose Word tells us to “be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with Thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God, and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Phil 4:6-7)

 So, Sis, it’s my prayer for you, it’s my prayer for me, that we will overcome our Stinking Thinking.

That we will trust in God’s promises to care for us, and that we will grow in our faith as our doubts diminish.

You know, I would love to hear your thoughts on this.

Head over to to leave a comment or send me a DM @athomewithty.

Thank you so much for listening to the Confidently Growing At Home podcast.

My name once again is Ty Benjamin, Christian homeschool mom of two and Mom Encourager, and if you enjoyed this podcast, please subscribe and leave a review so that we can reach even more homeschool moms just like you.

Talk to you soon.

God bless.

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